When you feel like this isn’t the person you married; when you worry that the gap in between you is widening every day; when it feels like the rug has been pulled out from under you after discovering the affair... it can feel like you are in over your head, and you may ask “Is it too late to save my marriage?”
Marriage counseling can lead to restoring the broken trust and intimacy your relationship once had. Your marriage is definitely worth fighting for, and needs to be given a real chance to succeed. Couples therapy can offer the tools and space you need as a pair to give your relationship that chance. Some possible areas of focus in couples therapy are:
Together we will create a safe space to explore your relationship. As a skilled witness, I will help to uncover underlying dynamics and destructive patterns in your interactions with one another, and help you to break out of them, providing new tools to communicate your needs without falling into familiar conflict patterns. This works to restore trust, allowing you to rediscover the joy, surprise, and closeness in your relationship.
You might be feeling very little hope for your relationship right now. I see my job as holding that hope for you for a while, until you can see whether it is possible to rebuild your commitment. The question isn’t whether you’re committed for life, but whether you both can commit now to working hard in therapy on your relationship by taking separation off the table for the time being.